First of all, if you’re reading this post, THANK YOU! 🙂 As you may know, I started Modern Dayton Mom earlier this year as a way to share all my wonderful finds in and around Dayton with other moms. I’m still here doing that, but I felt in the last month or so that I needed to revamp things a bit. Without getting into the technical details, I updated my blog to server that allowed me to have more creative control versus a free blogging site with limited abilities. Because it was a PAIN to try to migrate my old posts and pics, I’ve decided to start fresh here. Same domain (moderndaytonmom.com), same author, same blog – just better looking, simpler, and more focused. 🙂
Let me just say it. Having a blog can be HARD WORK, if you want it to be awesome. And likewise, being a mom is also HARD WORK, if you want your child to be happy and healthy. Trying to give each of them the same amount of attention is definitely impossible. It’s even harder when you have pets, you’re not spending a lot of time with your husband, you’re trying do do projects around the house (including cleaning up after flood damage – uh, yeah…), and in the midst of it all, you’re pretty much not taking good care of your own health. With all that being said, I’m now making it a priority to balance it all much better.
When I set out to create and cultivate this blog, I underestimated not just how much time it would take from my daily life, but how much I would LOVE doing it. I had BIG goals: Create an awesome resource for local moms. Have a calendar of every single event going on in the Miami Valley all the time. Go to all these events and take fabulous pictures, then come back and blog my a** off about it. Be AWESOME!!! Well, it hasn’t quite all worked out that way yet…
I’ve learned a lot personally in the past few months as I’ve developed my site. First and foremost, my son is my #1 priority above all else. If he’s sick and not feeling well, I hold him and read to him. If he wants to spend all afternoon exploring the backyard and I can hardly even go inside to pee without him getting upset, so be it. If I’m checking Facebook on my phone and he yanks it out of my hand whining to put a train set together, you’d better believe I’m gonna make that train set. Don’t get me wrong. He doesn’t walk all over me, but he doesn’t get neglected either. Most of the day is Dylan time. There is also mommy time. Not much of it, but it’s there. I try not to let my time trump his. After all, I stayed home to take care of him full-time, right? No blog will ever be more important than spending good, old-fashioned quality time with my little boy.
Also, I can’t do it all, but I’ll do as much as I can. I’m a perfectionist by nature, so it’s really tough for me to not feel like I’m giving everything 100%. I’m committed to scheduling time to work on my blog, and I promise I’ll work hard on it, but please forgive me if it’s not totally amazing, especially in these early months. I also want to have a gorgeously decorated house, a shining hardwood floor with no cat hair, a perfectly dressed, clean and well-behaved child, a seriously killer MILF body, and a green thumb front (and back) yard. Oh, AND an awesome blog. HILARIOUS, right?! I know. Impossible. My life will never be totally perfect, but if I spend my time wisely and balance my energy among the things that are essential, everything will fall into place.
Finally, I really like blogging. I like writing. I like sharing pictures (even though they definitely aren’t professional). I like feeling like I’m helping other moms and parents find new ways to connect with their kids, or just hear from another parent who’s in my same shoes. I like supporting the Dayton area. I like having a great reason to try new things and visit new places with my son. I like feeling like I’m making a tiny little difference in some way, some how. At the very least, I’m documenting some great experiences with my son during these fleeting early childhood years – and that’s reason enough to keep doing what I’m doing.
I hope you enjoy my blog. I hope you share it with other local moms who might enjoy it. I hope you can relate, learn something new, try something you’ve never experienced, or see a new perspective because of something I share here. And I hope you tell me all about it! 🙂